Gender-Confused Insomniac Geek

dirtyxygirl:

You are not less queer, just less interesting to me.

As a side note, I’ve understood bisexual monogamy.  Granted, I can’t relate to monogamy in general at this point, but specifically in regards to bisexuals, I have a hard time seeing how you can just give up an entire gender for the rest of your life unless it’s really not that big of a part of your sexuality.  I have an even harder time relating to monogamous straight partners of bisexuals who can ask them to give that up without feeling like a tremendous shithead.

I mean, think about it.  The person above said they have no doubt they’ll spend the rest of their life with someone of the opposite sex.  If they’re monogamous, that means that getting together with their opposite sex life partner will mean the end of them enjoying sex with anyone of the same sex as them.  Forever.  For a bisexual female, wouldn’t that essentially put you in the position of saying, “Wow, I love girls so much!  Can’t wait to meet a great boy and then never fuck a girl again!”

That just seems weird and sad to me, but again, I don’t really understand monogamy.  My life partner is sleeping a few feet from me, and I can still fuck and love whomever I want, and so can she.

I think you’re getting your aversion to monogamy in general mixed into it. “I have a hard time seeing how you can just give up an entire gender for the rest of your life” is not, to me, substantially different from saying to a monosexual monogamous person “I have a hard time seeing how you can pick one member of a gender and give up everyone else of that gender for the rest of your life.” It might sound odd, but that’s just how monogamous people function….

Granted, I’ve only been with women (actually, one woman) at this point in my life, so maybe I don’t appreciate the differences that people of other genders bring to the table. I can’t imagine that the differences between people of various genders are much greater than the differences between individual people, though.

(Source: queersecrets)

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   I’ve never been one to discuss my sexuality. Just keep it locked up unless to a few of my good friends and family....

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   In response to dirtyxygirl: If someone ripped on your sexuality, how would you react? You’d be angry as fuck. Rightfully...

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   think you’re getting your aversion...mixed into it. “I

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    THANK YOU THIS IS PERFECT I AM NOT A LESBIAN IF I AM DATING A WOMAN AND I AM NOT STRAIGHT IF I AM DATING A MAN. I AM...

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    I have so much respect for your eloquence and for your restraint. This…this exactly. Also I could point out that just...

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    “that’s your fault for being so sensitive” I’m gonna shit my pants. God forbid someone be legitimately offended by...

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    but but they didn’t say bisexuality wasn’t real, that could be arguable they said they don’t understand bisexual...

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    oh ok next time I see someone saying ‘asexuality isn’t real, I just don’t understand it’ I should move right on along...

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    Kathy is one of the most interesting people I know. I rest my case.

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    ‘You are not less queer, just less interesting to me.’ ‘For a bisexual female, wouldn’t that essentially put you in the...

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    What an ignorant, uninformed statment. Not the OP, that first response. Excuse me. I am attracted to both men and women...

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    Bisexuals who are in monogamous relationships with someone of the opposite gender (and plan to be, indefinitely) are...

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